What is the Color of Your Love this Valentine’s Day?

The Color of My Love is White

By

Princess Judith Adaobiihuoma Udeke

The color of my love is white

My love is light heavenly rays joy unending

It fills my being with excitement

Like I have never loved and lost

Never been broken hearted or pained

My love is an eclectic white light

Nimble ethereal light, yearning to ignite

The color of my love is white

My love is not stained by hope unfulfilled

It is not tainted by joy thwarted or Love unrequited

My love is a child, ever forgiving or just forgetting

That in love, happiness becomes hurt and laughter pain

My love is an eternal white light

Gentle forgiving peace, giving to renew

The color of my love is white

My love is sunrise on a field of white roses

I hear it sing, a vivid song of cheer

Abundant, unblemished blinding bright love

That is what I feel this Valentine’s Day

My love is calling my time is here

Oh! Beautiful, dazzling white love

The color of my love is white

My love is an amazing bright light

It reminding me of God himself

A crisp smell of fresh air, on a snowy winter morning

Upbeat, divine tunes in my heart, my movements is supernatural

My love has me floating on magical white clouds

Heaven is calling, for God is Love

Do Have a Happy Valentine’s Day everyone!

Cheers! J

A Man’s Beauty “Mma Nwoke”

A Man’s Beauty “Mma Nwoke”

“How is married life?” a friend of mine asked her newly married girlfriend.   “More yeast infection is all I can boast of right now” was her not very happily ever after response.   Is it me or are women getting more and more disillusioned at the pursuit of happiness via marriage.

Most of you already know that I analyze everything.  Lately I have been analyzing the fact that most of my married friends try to hook up their single friends so they too can get married while at the same time complaining or accepting that being married is a cross they have to carry. They definitely don’t paint the happily ever after picture some of us single ladies have in our mind’s eye when we think about finally meeting that Mr. Right.

Notice I didn’t say that my married friends try to hook me up.  Maybe it is because they have all given up on me, but the fact that I often get “you are lucky, you are single” by some of them sends a different message across.   

I don’t have all the answers but the more I analyze this particular issue, the more I feel the reason women are getting more and more disillusioned about being happy in marriage is that while men have stayed on the matter in looking for the beauty of a woman before they decide to marry her, it appears that a lot of women especially those that are quite miserable in their marriages completely skipped this basic step in deciding who you choose to say “I do” to.

Back in the days in Igbo land, this process was very simplified.   A woman’s beauty “Mma Nwanyi” was character “ugwu” and a man’s beauty “mma nwoke” was in the amount of money he has.  A lot of our mothers had/has successful happy marriages with this simple guide.  My girlfriend once told me that she has always only dated men with money because at a much early age she realized that men are work so you are better off getting some money with the package.  My girlfriend is happily married to a wealthy man today and sometimes, I wish I had met her when I was younger. 

I can already hear some of you saying money is not everything and yes, this is a very simplified definition of “Mma nwoke” and “Mma nwanyi” but every woman should define what a man’s beauty for her is before getting into a marriage relationship so that she can be happy in the marriage.  Today for men a woman’s beauty has evolved to several things but the important thing is that my married guy friends can easily tell me one tangible non-feeling related trait that convinced them to marry the wives they have today.  For one it was her humility part of “ugwu” and for another it was her sexual prowess, but the story changes when I talk to my female friends.  “I fell in love with his charming smile” is not the path to happiness.

So for those of us who are still lucky to be single (yep I consider me very lucky), and I should probably say unmarried cos for me its either single or married so take no offence beaux!!  I want to urge you to define your “Mma nwoke” and ensure that the next guy you date has that before you commit your heart and your life to them.  Do it for God because how can you convince sinning single girls like us that that marriage is God’s will for us when we are not seeing you in a life we can aspire to.

It will be nice to hear what a man’s beauty means for you so if you have taken time to think about it, do share your definitions on the comment box.

God Bless.

Cheers!